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    Are Your Children Prepared to Manage Your Money?

    Many boomers who have been fortunate (or skilled) enough to build up a sizable investment portfolio are concerned that their children are not prepared to manage it. “What will happen to our money when our children inherit it?” is a very important question.

    The Investment News has reported that over the next 30 years, an epic $30 trillion will be passed down from baby boomers to their heirs. In their book, Preparing Heirs, Roy Williams and Vic Preisser describe their survey of 3250 wealthy families that transferred their wealth to their adult children. They discovered that 70% of those transfers failed. In other words 70% the heirs lost control of the assets ( spent it all, invested poorly or lost control of a business)

    And why did this happen? Was it poor financial skills, lack of investment experience or business savvy that caused the failure? From their study Williams and Preisser concluded that “The origins of the 70% failure rate in estate transitions lie within the family itself.” What does this mean?

    In his brilliant little book, Wealth in Families, Charles W. Collier, Harvard University’s very successful senior philanthropic adviser, explains this phenomenon in more detail. He reports that it is not the failure of training in financial skills that causes this breakdown in the transfer of wealth but the failure of the family itself. “”Money casts a spell-and it can be for good. It is important, indeed critical for families to think seriously about the meaning of their financial wealth, the messages they send to their children about money, and the example they set by their own uses of their resources”

    “ To undertake effective succession planning, you may want to define a family vision and mission, create a structure for decision making appropriate to your family, foster open communication and encourage the growth and development of your family members.”

    Successful wealth transfer is not strictly about teaching good money management skills. It is about creating an environment in which children learn that they are listened to and have an important role in establishing the family’s mission, that money is a tool to express the family’s core values and principles.

    Families need to discuss what is important to them. They need to share what they believe is the meaning and purpose of the family’s financial wealth.

    This is certainly not an easy task for most families. It is much easier to enroll your children in a good investment or accounting class. But it is so much more valuable to create an environment in which the family can discuss how the family’s wealth was created, what is important to them and how money can be used to further that mission.

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    It Takes a Village to Serve Elders

    Many seniors want to do everything they can to stay in their homes as they get older. But often they need help to handle various responsibilities including getting to medical appointments, shopping, socializing with friends, preparing meals, and managing things around the house.

    They usually have two choices to get these services. First they can rely on family members to help them. This is often difficult if their children are working or are not in the immediate area. Second they can hire aides to come to the home. But this can be very expensive. Aides often cost $20 an hour or more and many seniors just can’t afford them.

    But a new alternative is emerging. It is a volunteer nonprofit organization created by a community to allow neighbors to help other neighbors. Each senior pays a fee to become part of the network. Fees vary by community and services offered . They range from $175 to $900 a year. Community members volunteer to provide most of the services. Discounted fees are available to people with lower incomes.

    Beacon Hill in Boston was probably one of the first neighborhoods to offer such a program. Beacon Hill Village was founded in 2001.

    A group of friends in the neighborhood started to talk. What if they banded together and created a network of like-minded people who were aging, but who knew they didn’t want to go to a nursing home? They could help one another when they needed it, recommend plumbers and doctors and home-care aides to each other, and schedule social events so no one would be isolated at home. The network would mean they wouldn’t have to be a burden to their children, and they wouldn’t have to go to a nursing home, either.

    Services offered to members include:

    • Referrals to discounted, vetted providers for everything from dog walkers to plumbers
    • A volunteer to assist you in your home or around town
    • Geriatric care management for you or your family members anywhere in the US
    • Rides home from a medical procedure that are required by the hospital/doctor
    • Personalized grocery shopping—we will drive you or deliver groceries to your home
    • Discounts to all providers: Electricians, plumbers, organizers, personal trainers, massage therapists, home care specialists

    A similar program was started on Cape Cod in 2011. It is called Nauset Neighbors that states “One call does it all”. It is staffed by 320 volunteers and serves over 260 seniors in the lower Cape. Volunteers provide transportation, light home maintenance, technical support, and other support tasks

    There are now eight open villages in Massachusetts. Each village is unique to its area and resources.  Nauset Neighbors is part of the Village to Village Network which now is composed of 190 open villages with another 185 in development around the country.

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